Women Are Missing Men of Quality

Women should relax and make a decision simply to wait for a man that would appreciate the love she has to give. That would give her the kind of love she can appreciate, they wouldn't be so eager to grab anything passing by like a Jaguar waiting in a tree. Women should act more like a professional hunter or fisherman, and if the prey they just caught isn't a trophy, toss it back.


Women have been missing men of quality and those same values for a very long time. When a man shows a woman, any woman, no matter what she looks like or acts like, that he will speak to and listen to her with respect and sincerity. Then, regardless of his appearance, she is smitten with an instant admiration. Not only did he speak to her as a brother would {meaning with an honest sincerity} but because he didn't even mention anything sexual.


She will respond without cause for concerns, as she has just witnessed something she has only dreamed of her entire life and possibly never, ever witnessed… until now. A man of integrity. This applies to all women on this planet. Not treating a woman with respect was the downfall of man and the reason women have classified men as degenerates, pigs, and so on. An insanely true fact is that a man that starts off referencing to anything sexual with a woman without allowing the woman to break that ice first…

~ BLEW IT FOR MANKIND ~.

Every one of the women on my list of friends is really a friend, and I have spoken with them all at one time or another, and many quite often. I'm constantly getting emails from many just to talk or flirt because they want a man to talk with that shows them respect. That alone, showing them sincere respect… and I do mean sincere, is the key. Women will spot a fake way before he opens his mouth.


Practice speaking with a sister or female cousin that you actually do care for and simply speak that same way, with your heart doing the thinking, to women. I graciously turn down a minimum of 2 marriage proposals a week, {I was grabbed by my wife long ago} which ought to prove my point. I don’t want anybody thinking I’m still available.


It is a wish that I try to tell every man I come across how to enrich his life with something that will make him a much better man. If men would just give an attempt, it would allow them to see the change come over women when seeing the kind of man they are looking for. By a man improving his behavior would give him a chance to experience the attitudes of women in his life improve. By men simply respecting and listening to the hearts of women would show women that not all men are pigs thinking with the wrong head all the time.


To have the “Women, can't live with them, can't shoot them” kind of comments men give is the type of indifference to women that caused the gap between us all. We caused women's attitude by not giving them the consideration they deserve. Gallantry, chivalry, loyalty, and honor are the codes to live by and die for, and they seem to be the right codes that attract women.


What I am expressing here is the side effect from this type of living. Fortunately I was raised by those values and I understand our need to show our masculinity, however by exposing our weakness, our sincerity, to women will allow them to see far more than just a muscle. They will see a man with a heart. That, my friends, is stronger than any other muscle we have, and means everything to a woman.


If anything is helpful in this and I have helped just one man gain ground in the eyes of women, then I have improved women’s opinion of men just a little. Recovering our ability to stand next to our women in their eyes and hearts, instead of behind and a little to the left of them, is my quest. If you have the ability to grasp the meaning of what I am telling you here, the quality of your life just changed and your smile just grew. I hope I helped you and the people in your life. Let me know.

© Merle Evans, 2010

How Did This Men/Women Clash Begin?

 It was man's own doing in the first place. Men had it made, in a sense, and when the World War I began women stayed behind and took over the workforce, without question, as a helpmate or partner or teammate does.

The women worked and learned the trades left open by the now military men, so efficiently that they were an integral part of the winning of that war. The men came home and the capable hands of the women filled their jobs now, and the men were shaken up. Many women went home to their kitchens but quite a few stayed working.

The men that went back to work were making a lot more money than the women, so they asked for equal pay for equal work. They deserved it. Men put up a fuss about it and women decided to be taken seriously but needed the assistance of all women. They decided to get the attention and publicize their plight. They staged demonstrations and burned their bras, getting all the attention possible to which new laws were written, and you should know the rest.

Man wasn't too happy about those results, so he stopped giving the women the respect they deserved, and men began getting the respect they deserved because of it. Neither side wanted this type of end, but man’s stubborn nature wasn't about to let him give in.

The fix…

The only way it will begin to repair is to first start simply by re-instating chivalry back into the mainstream of their lives. Men would begin showing women that they really do care about their relationships. By doing what is commonly called “sucking up” to a woman could be seen by women as risking his “manhood” to treat the lady with courtesy.

Opening the door is such a simple little thing, but it is the accumulation of these little things that will eventually be recognized as a standard of courtesy. They will build their respect for men back with time and constant practice to where it once was at its peak. Men will find this practice, as it grows throughout the land, the ladies appreciating such thoughtfulness and reciprocating in kind. Much to the men's delight, if I might add.

That is how I see the repair of the men and women’s relationship as a whole, and thereby eventually getting me out of this gutter I was so wrongly kicked to.

© Merle Evans, 2010

Reinstate Respect and Chivalry NOW!

Where did manners and courtesy go? Why did men give up on behaving with sincerity and being honest to either women or men? When civility and manners left men get tossed into a barrel with the rest of the mouth breathers and I, for one, resent being thrown into the category that includes baboons and the like. I'm a man and I do treat women with respect. I treat any woman, or man for that matter, with the same respect I treat my sister or brothers. Everybody receives the same sincerity I give my real family.

And you know what?

It works! By treating people with the same interest and emotions as you would treat your family members, it has the makings of returning men to their position of standing NEXT to a woman. Not in front of her, as she is an equal human being here. She may not be as strong as men are, but I guarantee you this, they can do just about anything else we can do. They are well practiced at being sincere. Women have the attentiveness to learn to do a hell of a lot of various jobs.

By “Dad's” having drifted from being sincere or showing chivalry to “Mom” doesn't teach the child how to love at all and ruins his future relationships by failing to teach them what love looks like. Everybody with any intelligence at all knows that you can't learn squat from any book that will teach you better than experience. Witnessing an action and result of the action is the closest manner of teaching a child exactly how to be when they grow up.