How Did This Men/Women Clash Begin?

 It was man's own doing in the first place. Men had it made, in a sense, and when the World War I began women stayed behind and took over the workforce, without question, as a helpmate or partner or teammate does.

The women worked and learned the trades left open by the now military men, so efficiently that they were an integral part of the winning of that war. The men came home and the capable hands of the women filled their jobs now, and the men were shaken up. Many women went home to their kitchens but quite a few stayed working.

The men that went back to work were making a lot more money than the women, so they asked for equal pay for equal work. They deserved it. Men put up a fuss about it and women decided to be taken seriously but needed the assistance of all women. They decided to get the attention and publicize their plight. They staged demonstrations and burned their bras, getting all the attention possible to which new laws were written, and you should know the rest.

Man wasn't too happy about those results, so he stopped giving the women the respect they deserved, and men began getting the respect they deserved because of it. Neither side wanted this type of end, but man’s stubborn nature wasn't about to let him give in.

The fix…

The only way it will begin to repair is to first start simply by re-instating chivalry back into the mainstream of their lives. Men would begin showing women that they really do care about their relationships. By doing what is commonly called “sucking up” to a woman could be seen by women as risking his “manhood” to treat the lady with courtesy.

Opening the door is such a simple little thing, but it is the accumulation of these little things that will eventually be recognized as a standard of courtesy. They will build their respect for men back with time and constant practice to where it once was at its peak. Men will find this practice, as it grows throughout the land, the ladies appreciating such thoughtfulness and reciprocating in kind. Much to the men's delight, if I might add.

That is how I see the repair of the men and women’s relationship as a whole, and thereby eventually getting me out of this gutter I was so wrongly kicked to.

© Merle Evans, 2010

Reinstate Respect and Chivalry NOW!

Where did manners and courtesy go? Why did men give up on behaving with sincerity and being honest to either women or men? When civility and manners left men get tossed into a barrel with the rest of the mouth breathers and I, for one, resent being thrown into the category that includes baboons and the like. I'm a man and I do treat women with respect. I treat any woman, or man for that matter, with the same respect I treat my sister or brothers. Everybody receives the same sincerity I give my real family.

And you know what?

It works! By treating people with the same interest and emotions as you would treat your family members, it has the makings of returning men to their position of standing NEXT to a woman. Not in front of her, as she is an equal human being here. She may not be as strong as men are, but I guarantee you this, they can do just about anything else we can do. They are well practiced at being sincere. Women have the attentiveness to learn to do a hell of a lot of various jobs.

By “Dad's” having drifted from being sincere or showing chivalry to “Mom” doesn't teach the child how to love at all and ruins his future relationships by failing to teach them what love looks like. Everybody with any intelligence at all knows that you can't learn squat from any book that will teach you better than experience. Witnessing an action and result of the action is the closest manner of teaching a child exactly how to be when they grow up.