Reinstate Respect and Chivalry NOW!

Where did manners and courtesy go? Why did men give up on behaving with sincerity and being honest to either women or men? When civility and manners left men get tossed into a barrel with the rest of the mouth breathers and I, for one, resent being thrown into the category that includes baboons and the like. I'm a man and I do treat women with respect. I treat any woman, or man for that matter, with the same respect I treat my sister or brothers. Everybody receives the same sincerity I give my real family.

And you know what?

It works! By treating people with the same interest and emotions as you would treat your family members, it has the makings of returning men to their position of standing NEXT to a woman. Not in front of her, as she is an equal human being here. She may not be as strong as men are, but I guarantee you this, they can do just about anything else we can do. They are well practiced at being sincere. Women have the attentiveness to learn to do a hell of a lot of various jobs.

By “Dad's” having drifted from being sincere or showing chivalry to “Mom” doesn't teach the child how to love at all and ruins his future relationships by failing to teach them what love looks like. Everybody with any intelligence at all knows that you can't learn squat from any book that will teach you better than experience. Witnessing an action and result of the action is the closest manner of teaching a child exactly how to be when they grow up.

By failing to BE sincere or attentive or interested in his wife will absolutely ruin the son's chances at a happy married life because he wasn't shown the right way to care for his wife. When man started sliding away from being interested, or at least not acting like he was, they began a downward spiral into a pit that takes work to get out of. If it was too much work or effort to show interest or be chivalrous or even just listen to her opinions with honesty, then crawling out of this pit has already failed before it began.

Somewhere on this planet there are still men with strong values and a sincere intention of raising their sons to behave as a real man with integrity, honor, loyalty, and compassion. He proves that by not being afraid of what anybody will say because he called his wife and told her he would be 15 minutes late… and walked in the door 15 minutes from the courtesy call. He won't have any reservations about having a conversation with his wife about her day because she will be just as interested in his. The communications gap just got destroyed, and they are talking and actually listening to each other.

It isn't even a matter of “I will if she will”. Men started this failure by responding incorrectly to women's assertion of their equal rights and burning of their bras to try to get the same pay as a man for doing the same job, and sometimes even better. It is man's responsibility to set this straight. If he is genuinely wanting to fix the lack of respect women have for man in general, then he has to show women the respect they deserve without expecting the corrections to be instant. That will show the 'often burned' women a level of sincerity to which man's intentions on this subject have often failed so many times before.

I am a man who was raised by a history of honor and respect unsurpassed even by today's standards. I have a long line of actual Knights in England, Ireland, and Scotland in my ancestry including the Knights Templar, Free Masons and clear up to my Grandfather and Father who taught me the values all men should possess. In doing so, they showed me the benefits of being honest to people as well as being chivalrous to women, all women, and what responses women return. I have experienced first hand the fact that women have an extraordinary ability to change instantly when a man presents himself respectfully and kindly.

Women are neglected in so many of the ways that they should be reinforced in to make them feel as important to us as they really are. I am amazed by how sincerely and emotionally recharged women respond to simply paying attention to them. I love women for being so resilient and capable of becoming so attractive when given the respect they deserve. I have no problem having a woman on the same team as me because when shown attention and respect a woman will fight to the death with the passion and ferocity of a lioness to protect and preserve such a relationship. Men who are unaware of such a capable person are the victims of their own ignorance.

Take a moment, Gentlemen, and just simply be charming and polite to your partner and see if she doesn't look at you strangely… but she will be smiling. You can't fall any farther than we allowed ourselves to fall already. Save our sons and give our daughters a gentleman for a husband. It's up to us to do it now. We are the last generation that even knows what I am talking about. Help all mankind have a better life, and it all starts with you and how you treat your wife. God save us all.

© Merle Evans, 2010